ACM minutes Sept 24, 2023

Topics: conflict support: identifying your emotions; community websites & wiki; welcoming committee; community online resources

Present: Lynda (co-fac), Laura, Lauren, Jorge, Ben, Kay (notes), Mike (fac), Laura, Carol, Laraine, Vicky, Amalie, Gheybin, Jordan, Cheryl, Robin, Kerry, Vinnie, Cyd

This is Lauren's last ACM. She suggests having a coordinator or administrator whose task was to find people to docommunity jobs.  Mike will do a request for discussion.

Conflict Support: Identifying Your Emotions

Handout  Unhealthy conflict is You vs. Me.  Healthy Conflict: You & Me vs The Problem

Game "Grok", pack of cards with emotions and feelings.

A fill-in-the-blank sentence that can be useful is, "When I see/hear [action], I feel [emotion], because [history/interpretation]. I need [need]. Would you be willing to [action request]?" 

Passive tense feelings, expressed as verb+ed tend to be that something someone else has done to you, rather than how you are reacting to your interpretation of your observation. Avoid accusation. 

"Need" can come across as a demand.  "I prefer".  My needs and feelings are my responsibility, but you can help or hinder.  Explain what in your history leads you to interpret an action a particular way.

Welcoming, Educational Overview

Members: Laura, Vicky, Lila, Laraine, Lynda, Amy, & Renae

Steps the Management and Welcoming go through when someone says they are selling.

A letter goes to the seller of a unit that outlines the requirements for seller and buyer, rental regulations, etc. A text goes out to people who have expressed interest telling them a unit may become available.

Welcoming's goal when a unit sells is to make sure that the buyer understands that we are cohousing and what that means.

Interacting with the community's FaceBook or InstaGram accounts helps promote the accounts.

Once people arrive, there is a binder. Welcoming currently does three sessions of orientation. The binder recently added Mandate from Conflict Support team and what is the difference between the condo and the cohousing.

Post a Q-Code on porch of open house that lets people sign up for information and to be notified of available units.

Lynda will send the orientation documents to Ben to be put on the wiki.

To contact the welcoming committee, email to wacoho-welcome@googlegroups.com.

Intro to community online resources

There are three main online resources:  the landing page, the external-facing website, and the wiki.

The landing page has links to a number of additional online resources.  Wiki, pay-or-play reporting, suggestions for meeting topics. Can find it by searching wiki.wasatchommons.com to find the wiki. At the bottom of every community email, there is a link to it.

On the wiki, when you are doing a new page, an icon on the right hand side has templates, for instance for minutes or proposals, to guide you on what should be included in particular types of community documents.

The wiki is organized into "shelves", "books", and "chapters".  The shelves are divided into facilities, governance, and relationships.

Anyone can read the wiki.  To make changes, log in using the email you use for the community listserv and a password.

The wiki keeps track of changes and who made them.

Committee Reports

Common House.  Saturday September 30, noon, deep-clean work party cleaning common house.  Remove mattresses and vacuum them.  Shampoo rugs.  There are some pictures that have never been hung.  The sewing room has five machines, so may weed those out.

Conflict Support.  Did a session on turtles and hailstorms with Karen Gymnig.  Her sessions are always 4:00 to 6:00 Thursday afternoon/evening. Some interest in doing another.

The national organization does a monthly Cohousing 101 session.

Landscape.  Talk to Landscape (meeting 4th Tuesday at 7:00)

Announcements

Michael Abrahamson & Emily Buckner are closing on #25 on the third.  Saturday & Sunday 7th & 8th. He is an architect.  He is scanning the blueprints.

Linda's dojo doing a promotion to offer four to six weeks of aikido for free. 

Saturday Oct 7 Servas potluck. Laura & Victor are hosting.  Speaker from Kazakhstan.

October 14 Grae's friend June Bills(?) is doing videos

October 1 Lynda has a Bridal Shower and October 13 a wedding in the common house.

Session to learn how to winterize swamp coolers.  Will email details.  (Concierge charges $100.)

Storage Bin

Fire pit (Vinnie may bring forward) and children's play structure.

Emailed 10/1/2023.